Literally sat down in my graduate level chemistry class and then these two undergrads sat across from me and girl 1 was like ‘omg he’s such a meme’ and girl 2 was like ‘oh I know right totally a meme’ and I’ve never felt so old
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“Hmm? Oh, no, I’m not mad. I’m too tired to be mad. I’m just very judgy.”
– chemistry TA who made lots of disgruntled faces about our lab upkeeping
Do you ever get memories about conversations years ago and think “wow I really let them say that to me”
being forced to be constantly accessible damages your boundaries and ability to make boundaries. I don’t care what anyone says about “it’s 2017 and you should be able to text back unless you’re in the hospital or the movies”. no one is entitled to anyone 24/7. it’s fucking unhealthy at best and manipulative and abusive at worst to expect this of someone.
give people their space. make sure your people give you your space.
god can i just. queue this to post once every day until i die
a toxic friend shoved her always-accessible expectations down my throat for years before i figured out the fucked-upness of it all and it seriously messed with my ability to reach out to people. or respond to literally anything without feeling like i need to breathe into a paper bag before, during, and after our interaction. i can’t check my voicemails without having to clear a mental hurdle (and then they pile up and it just gets harder and harder to clear the hurdle). i have trouble even checking my email for this same reason.
don’t. don’t expect people to always be there for you on your terms. it’s a fine thing to want or wish for, but it’s a super shitty expectation to impose without exception on people you care about.
My ex was a master at this
If she needed something I HAD TO BE THERE AND BE A GOOD GIRLFRIEND OR I WAS A BAD PERSON. It was always things she wanted to do.
I, on the other hand, frequently got radio silence if I had something I needed, be it help with something or wanting to go somewhere she didn’t want to. And HEAVEN FORBID I do anything at ALL without her, even a trip to the library.
This is the first time I’ve seen someone describe the effects of this so neatly. Thank you.
if a professor brags about how hard it is to pass their class then drop the class. they should not be proud of being bad at conveying information to students. you’re not paying thousands of dollars to fail. find a professor that wants you to pass.
as a college instructor I approve this message
You can picture their smiles!
Made all the wrong decisions
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