classicalmonoblogue:

allophobia:

what society needs to understand is that friendship and romance are not ranks, tiers, or levels. they are not above or below each other. romance is not a promotion. friendship is not a demotion. romance is not “more than” being friends with someone. friendship and romance are concepts that exist on equal terms, side by side. sometimes they happen to coincide. other times they never intersect at all. how relationships are classified is up to the individuals involved but like?? neither is inherently more or less valuable is the thing

Seriously! They’re like flavours – and I would add “familial” as another, distinct flavour of personal bond.

Any particular one can be faint or strong – I have had lovers who meant the universe to me and for whom I would do just about anything, sure, but I’ve also had lovers who were… fun? but I wouldn’t, like, miss an episode of my favourite show to go see them. I certainly would never prioritise them over my dear friends who know my soul and will be mine and I’ll be theirs forever – even though I also have friends whose party invites I’ll answer but whose middle names I don’t know. I don’t know my father’s last name, my sister was the mirror of my self. Family, friend, lover… they can all be near or distant, they can all be important or not.